I like to think that if you’re here on this fabulous website, that you are here because you like to think outside of the box AND because you question everything. A topic of concern/conversation in this household has been the cake/dessert, and it got me thinking ‘Why are we even having a cake?’. So, for your inquisitive pleasure, I have looked into some of the most popular wedding traditions and what modern brides are doing (or not doing!) in these areas.
1) Break tradition: See the bride before the ceremony
In western cultures, back when arranged marriages were a customary way to seal alliances between families and business dealings (think Game of Thrones style!), it was forbidden for the groom and bride to see each other – just in case they backed out of the deal!! Nowadays (and because most of know what we’re getting into before we get married!) this tradition still carries on pretty strongly. If you’re wanting to do things a little bit different, instead of seeing the bride for the first along with every other guest/camera/Iphone, take the time before the ceremony to do first looks privately. Still not convinced? Check out these heart-tugging photos of such a meeting! (Not even kidding, I was reduced to tears looking at these!).
2) Break tradition: What, no cake?!
Now, the old wedding cake is probably one of the most complicated and ever-changing wedding traditions EVER. The Romans would break bread over a bride to promote fertility, and in medieval times, the ‘cake’ would be anything from bread rolls to pies, also promoting fertility and happiness. Don’t even get me started on the crazy-ass practice of single bridesmaids sleeping with a piece of cake under their pillow or in their left stocking to attract Mr. Right into their lives.
So lets look at your options:
- Don’t have a cake – I cannot even tell you the last time I ate wedding cake at a wedding. In fact, the closest I came to eating cake was the icing of a wedding cupcake – true story. Why not have a buffet of delectable desserts for your guests instead? Or for the vegetarians, I’ve seen some pretty impressive cheese cakes (as in wheels of cheese stacked on each other).
- Fake it! – A work colleague sent me this little gem of wizardry earlier in the week – Fake The Cake. Basically a mock cake, that you can still ‘cut’ but that you don’t have to slice and distribute. You can even sell the cake back to them after the event! (Not sure why anyone would want to keep aforementioned fake cake, but there you go!)
3) Break tradition: Ditch the flowers
Back in the day, bouquets weren’t the colourful loveliness of flowers that exists today. You would be carrying garlic and dill, girlfriend. Apparently superstitious folk believed that brides were super vulnerable to spirits and bad Juju, so measures that provided protection and spiritual comfort weren’t all that uncommon.
Brides now have bouquets ranging from paper flowers to candy lollipops. You and your bridal party can even carry lanterns, ornate fans or more like the images below. I’m particularly loving the pinwheels and balloons!
Did you do anything different for your wedding, to break tradition or to just be cool and hip? Leave a comment below and tell us all about it!